230 Questions to Get to Know Someone
Searching for questions to get to know someone? Whether you’re trying to make new friends as an adult (genuinely one of the hardest things nobody warns you about), getting to know someone you’re dating, or just want better questions than “so, what do you do?” I’ve put together an ultimate list of 230 questions to ask to get to know someone.
Questions to Get to Know Someone
Whether you’ve just met someone at a coffee shop or you’re meeting a new neighbor; the best questions to ask someone are simple but give a little insight into their personality.
The questions below are super causal and low stakes. Meaning they don’t require a lot of vulnerability or deep thought. They’re just enough to get someone talking and give you something real to build on.
1. What’s your favorite way to spend a Sunday?
2. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
3. What’s something you’re really into right now?
4. What’s your go to order at a coffee shop?
5. Do you have any pets?
6. What show are you currently watching (or rewatching)?
7. What’s your comfort meal?
8. Where did you grow up?
9. What’s your favorite season and why?
10. Do you have a hobby you got into recently?
11. What’s playing in your car or on your headphones lately?
12. What’s your idea of a perfect weekend?
13. Are you a planner or more go with the flow?
14. What’s the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
15. What’s your favorite local spot?
16. Do you collect anything?
17. What’s a small thing that instantly puts you in a good mood?
18. What’s your love language?
19. What’s a show or movie you could rewatch forever?
20. If you had a free afternoon with zero plans, what would you actually do with it?
Deep Questions to Get to Know Someone
Deep questions aren’t about being heavy or intense for no reason. They’re about genuinely getting to know someone: their values, fears, and the things that shaped who they are today.
Whether you’re building a new friendship, getting closer to your partner, or just want to feel more connected to someone you’ve known forever; these questions open the door to conversations you’ll actually remember.
21. What’s something you believed as a kid that you had to unlearn?
22. What does “home” mean to you?
23. What’s a moment that changed the way you see the world?
24. What are you most proud of that other people might not know about?
25. What’s something you’re working on becoming better at?
26. How do you want to be remembered by the people close to you?
27. What’s a fear you’ve worked hard to overcome?
28. What does a meaningful life look like to you?
29. What’s something you needed to hear when you were younger?
30. What’s a value you will not compromise on?
31. When do you feel most like yourself?
32. What’s something you’ve forgiven yourself for?
33. What’s a season of your life that shaped you the most?
34. What do you think people misunderstand about you?
35. What’s something you’re grateful for that you don’t say out loud enough?
36. What’s a goal you’re quietly working toward right now?
37. How has your definition of success changed over time?
38. What’s a piece of advice you’d give your younger self?
39. What makes you feel the most at peace?
40. What’s something you hope never changes about you?
Questions to Get to Know a New Friend
This is the section I wish existed when I moved to a new city and had to build my friend group from scratch. Making friends as an adult doesn’t come with the built-in structure school gave us, so sometimes you just need good questions to speed things along.
41. Are you more of a “text back right away” or “leave you on read for two days” friend? No judgment either way!
42. What’s your ideal “let’s finally hang out” plan? Coffee, a walk, or just being on the couch together?
43. What made you want to move to this city or neighborhood?
44. What’s something you’re looking for more of in your life right now? New hobbies, new people, new experiences, etc.
45. What’s something you’re really passionate about that doesn’t come up in small talk?
46. What’s something you wish you had more time for?
47. What’s your favorite season?
48. What’s your favorite holiday?
49. What’s a trend you will never understand?
50. What’s a trend you’re completely obsessed with?
51. What’s something you’ll defend no matter what?
52. What’s the funniest thing that has happened to you recently?
53. What’s something you’ve learned about yourself in your 20s?
54. What’s one area of your life you’re really enjoying right now?
55. What do you like doing when you have free time?
56. What’s somewhere you really want to visit?
57. Beach vacation or mountain vacation?
58. If someone handed you a plane ticket right now, where would you go?
59. What’s an experience that’s currently on your bucket list?
60. If you won $10 million tomorrow, what’s the first completely unnecessary thing you would buy?
61. What reality show do you think you could actually win?
62. If you had to eat at one restaurant for the rest of your life, which one are you choosing?
63. If you could instantly become amazing at one skill, what would it be?
64. What celebrity do you think you could actually be friends with?
65. What was your childhood dream job?
66. If you could relive one year of your life just for fun, which year would you choose?
67. What’s your most random hot take?
Fun Questions to Get to Know Someone
Favorite foods, dream vacations, favorite shows, what they’d order if money wasn’t a thing; these are the questions that keep things light while you’re still learning a ton about someone.
68. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
69. What’s your most used emoji?
70. If your life had a theme song, what would it be?
71. What’s the most useless talent you have?
72. Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?
73. What’s a food combination you love that other people think is weird?
74. If you had to be on a reality show, which one and why?
75. What’s your go to karaoke song?
76. What’s the last thing you Googled?
77. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d buy?
78. What’s your comfort snack?
79. If you could instantly become an expert at one random skill, what would it be?
80. What’s a trend you were today years old when you finally understood?
81. What’s the weirdest fact you know?
82. If you had to pick a celebrity to play you in a movie, who would it be?
83. What’s your Roman Empire, the random thing you think about way too often?
84. Would you rather never text again or never call again?
85. What’s the most embarrassing thing in your search history right now?
86. What’s your go to “I don’t want to cook” meal?
87. If you had to survive a zombie apocalypse, what’s your plan?
Questions to Get to Know Someone You’re Dating
Whether it’s your first date or your fifteenth, there’s always more to learn about the person you’re seeing. And honestly, that’s part of the fun.
These questions are perfect for those moments when you want to go beyond “how was your day?” and actually get into what makes them who they are: their goals, their love language, their weird little habits, all of it.
88. What does your ideal relationship look like day to day?
89. What’s your love language, and how did you figure it out?
90. What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?
91. What do you need to feel secure in a relationship?
92. What’s a relationship dealbreaker for you?
93. How do you like to be comforted when you’re having a hard day?
94. What does quality time look like to you?
95. What’s something you’re looking for in a partner that you didn’t used to prioritize?
96. How do you handle disagreements?
97. What’s your idea of a perfect date?
98. What’s a memory from a past relationship that taught you something important?
99. How do you show someone you care about them?
100. What role does family play in how you picture your future?
101. What’s something small that makes you feel appreciated?
102. What are you most excited about when it comes to building a life with someone?
103. What are you looking for when it comes to dating right now?
104. What makes you feel closest to someone?
105. What do you think makes a relationship last?
106. What’s something you think couples should never stop doing for each other?
107. What does trust look like to you in a relationship?
108. How do you usually know when you really like someone?
109. How important is having your own space and independence in a relationship?
110. How much time do you ideally like spending with someone you’re dating?
111. Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
112. What are your dating intentions? Dating for marriage, dating for fun, looking for something casual, etc.
113. How important is living close to family to you?
114. Are you more of a saver or a spender?
115. How do you think finances should be handled in a serious relationship?
116. What does success look like to you personally?
117. Is apologizing easy or difficult for you?
118. What does forgiveness look like to you?
119. What’s something you think people misunderstand about you?
120. What traditions from your childhood would you want to continue someday?
121. What’s something your parents taught you about relationships, whether intentionally or unintentionally?
122. What’s your favorite childhood memory?
123. Who has influenced the way you see relationships the most?
124. What’s an underrated date idea you think would actually be fun?
125. What song would absolutely have to be on your wedding reception playlist?
126. Would you rather have a huge wedding or something small and intimate?
127. What’s something silly that instantly puts you in a good mood?
128. What’s something you think people should discuss before getting into a serious relationship?
Questions to Get to Know Someone Over Text
Texting has a totally different vibe than talking in person. So sometimes it takes a little extra effort to keep the conversation from turning into one word answers.
Try out the questions below, the next time you’re getting to know someone through text.
129. What’s something good that happened to you today?
130. What are you currently obsessed with?
131. What’s a photo on your camera roll you haven’t shown anyone?
132. What’s your comfort show right now?
133. What’s the last thing you bought that you’re really happy with?
134. What’s a song stuck in your head lately?
135. What’s something small you’re looking forward to this week?
136. What’s your current favorite candle or scent?
137. What’s a place you’ve been wanting to visit?
138. What’s something you learned recently that surprised you?
139. What’s your go to fast food order?
140. What’s a show, book, or podcast you think I’d like?
141. What’s something you’re proud of this week, even if it’s small?
142. What’s your current phone lock screen?
143. If you could teleport somewhere right now, where would you go?
144. What’s the most recent thing you added to your cart but haven’t bought yet?
145. What’s a meme you related to way too much this week?
146. What’s your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday indoors?
147. What’s something you’re currently rewatching or rereading?
148. What’s the best thing you ate this week?
149. What’s a random fact you learned recently?
150. What’s your current “in my era” moment?
151. What’s something you’re praying for right now?
152. What’s the last thing you screenshotted?
153. What’s a small win from today you want to share?
154. What’s your go to text when you don’t know how to respond to something?
155. What’s a song you’ve had on repeat?
156. What’s something you’re excited about for the weekend?
157. What’s the last thing that made you smile without meaning to?
158. What’s one thing about today you’d want me to know?
Questions to Get to Know Someone at a Party
If you’re at a party or some kind of social gathering with mutual friends, below are some great conversation starters.
From asking how they know the host, to finding out their favorite song that’ll have them dancing all night long, these questions are an easy way to break the ice.
159. How do you know the host?
160. What made you come out tonight?
161. Have you been to a party like this before?
162. Who did you come here with?
163. What’s your go to drink at a party?
164. Are you usually the first person to arrive or the last person to leave?
165. Are you more of a house party person or a going out person?
166. What song will immediately get you on the dance floor?
167. What’s your favorite type of party?
168. What’s the last thing that made you laugh really hard?
Questions to Ask Someone You’ve Just Met
Meeting someone new can feel a little awkward at first, and that’s totally normal. The trick is having a few good questions ready so you’re not stuck relying on “so… what do you do?” on repeat.
Below are some questions that you can ask someone that you’ve just met. They’re curious without being too intense, so the other person doesn’t feel like they’re being interrogated (lol).
169. Where are you from?
170. Did you grow up around here?
171. What do you do for work?
172. What are you studying?
173. What do you like to do for fun?
174. What do your weekends usually look like?
175. Are you more of a morning person or a night owl?
176. What’s something you’ve been really into lately?
177. What kind of music do you listen to?
178. What’s the last show you watched and actually liked?
179. Are you watching anything good right now?
180. What’s your favorite movie?
181. What’s your go to comfort show?
182. What kind of food could you eat all the time?
183. What’s your go to restaurant?
184. Are you more of a coffee or tea person?
185. What’s your usual coffee shop order?
186. Do you like to cook?
187. What’s your favorite thing to cook?
188. Do you have any pets?
189. Are you a dog person or a cat person?
190. Do you have any siblings?
191. What’s something new you’ve tried recently?
192. Who’s your favorite artist?
193. Are you more introverted or extroverted?
Funny Questions to Get to Know Someone
Nothing breaks the ice like a good laugh! And these funny questions can help take the pressure off of getting to know someone, while making the conversation super lighthearted and casual.
194. What’s your best pick up line?
195. What’s your favorite dad joke?
196. What is your most useless talent?
197. If your life had a warning label, what would it say?
198. If you could only communicate using one movie quote for an entire day, which one would you choose?
199. What is the funniest excuse you have ever used to get out of something?
200. If you had to be on a reality TV show, which one would you pick?
201. What is the most ridiculous thing you have ever spent money on?
202. If you became famous tomorrow, what would it probably be for?
203. What is the strangest compliment you have ever received?
204. If you could replace handshakes with another greeting, what would it be?
205. If you were a professional wrestler, what would your stage name and signature move be?
206. If your pet could talk, what do you think they’d say about you behind your back?
207. Would you rather talk like a pirate or a robot for the rest of your life?
208. What’s the worst movie you’ve ever seen?
209. What’s the cringiest TV show you secretly love?
210. If you were a superhero, what would your silly weakness be?
211. If you could invent a holiday, what would it celebrate?
212. Would you eat a bowl of crickets for $50,000?
213. What’s the weirdest compliment someone’s given you that you secretly loved?
214. What embarrassing moment has stuck with you over the past few years?
215. Do you have any special skills?
216. Do you believe in any fun conspiracy theories?
217. Would you rather have to give up coffee or give up pizza for a year?
218. Would you rather talk like Mickey Mouse when you’re angry or laugh just like Spongebob?
219. What animal looks like it would absolutely start drama?
220. What animal looks like it would absolutely start drama?
221. What’s the funniest joke you’ve ever heard?
222. If a giraffe wore a tie, would it wear it at the top of its neck or the bottom.
223. If you could eat clouds, what flavor do you think they’d be?
224. Is cereal a soup?
225. What’s the silliest thing that you’re good at?
226. If you could talk to animals, what animal would you talk to first and what would you talk about?
227. What’s the most ridiculous fact you know, that no one else seems to care about?
228. If you had to design your dream house, what’s the most unnecessary feature you’d add?
229. What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever overheard in public?
230. If aliens offered you a ride, what are your top 3 demands?
